On the way to the fascist regime that is my job, I was driving behind a car that had a sign on its back window which read, “You were just passed by a GIRL” complete with the surfer style flower in a girly typeface. It just oozed femininity, in that cutesy kind of way.

This contemporary version of so called ‘girl power’ makes me ill. To an ordinary female this might seem like a remarkable message to put out there, but it is yet again another way for women to be considered subservient and second-class in societies view of us.

If women are suppose to act quiet, devoid of opinions and compliant, why do we have to show our defiance by consistently proving that we are better than men? Why can we not ask for equality and be treated as such instead of being referred to in demeaning ways?

I wish that contemporary feminists could be seen for what they actually are, intelligent, thoughtful, dynamic women with an opinion, not bra burning man haters. Let alone hiding behind this so-called version of passive 'girl power'.

Lets start out our 2009 by using propaganda and falsities to spread hate and fear directed towards fat individuals. That is exactly what fox news and our favorite uneducated liar Meme Roth wants you to do for the new year.

Just a reminder on Ms. Roth herself she is the president of an organization by the name of National Action Against Obesity, who has tried to ban cupcakes from her child’s school, went on the today show to say that every women should be able to fit into her wedding dress the rest of their life (without looking at any form of study that shows we gain weight as we age), and for saying that Jordan Sparks shouldn’t win American Idol because she’s fat. Basically your all around hate monger Meme has no real education about health but is a marketing and public relations major using our societies fear of fat to make herself famous. A recent interview on Your World with Neil Cavuto, Ms. Roth stated that she does not like the new show Diet tribe with this reasoning, (Full interview here)

Here's the thing study after study shows that. Obesity is contagious -- first it runs and social networks if you have an obese friend. You have a 171% increase in chance that you too will become obese an obese spouse a 37% increase. So the idea isn't so much to dump your fat friend just because their fat it's more about dumping the friend that might weaken your resolve.

I am aware of the study that came out in 2007 that said fat spreads like a virus between friends but the numbers Ms. Roth puts out there are false and misleading. That being said if she truthfully believes that fat people are bad infliences then why can thin people not be so called ‘good influences’. I think what this whole thing comes down to is society yet again trying to put the blame on fat people for their own issues. People need to start taking personal responsibility for their own actions instead of saying it’s their fat friends fault.

Most people think that they are so sneaky or private but what they might not realize is that frequenting a restaurant means that your server will more than likely know you. It becomes truer if you are one of the millions of neurotic restaurant patrons that frequent restaurants with their never-ending incidents of ridiculous issues or habits of acting as if they are better than the system. Also if you’re a regular trying to hide something get real. We all know what your doing before you do.

Working in a bar has its perks, if you want to know information about someone all you have to do is get their friends a little liquored up or become friendly with them and they will spill the beans. I once had roommates of a guy tell me all of his dirty laundry that would probably make his now fiancé not want to marry him, since he was hiding a side of himself from her which would not shed a good light on him.

The stories never end but some of my favorite regulars are some of the nicest kindest people that I have ever met, but the others are normally the ones that servers stay away from, don’t try to talk to or interact with more than they have to. Small incidents of pretentious behavior can make someone remember you forever, trying to argue with the server that because it’s the next day somewhere else in the world just makes you look like an asshole. And then asking if their boss knows how argumentative they are (after you tried to explain that on Monday its Tuesday somewhere else thus you should get your bottle of wine half off) also makes you look like an asshole. Also hanging your coat on a chair at a different table when we have coat hangers makes you look like a huge asshole, and you will forever be know as coat guy.

Next we have the adulterers, they come from different directions, every day meeting at the bar. We know they are having an affair from the fact that she wears a wedding ring and he does not. But there are more subtle clues that made us come to this conclusion, they don’t dress the same, or drive the same class of cars she drives a brand new $50,000 car where as he drives an outdated suv. If you ever look around a restaurant you can tell what couple is together. Their clothes match, older couples even have a tendency to wear the same patterns, which I tend to believe is the wife having her husbands balls in a vice. *I am updating to say that not only do they come from different locations but leave going different ways. Meeting up 4-5 times a week at the same time every day.*

The worst is people who frequent places with their family and the person they are having an affair with. The sad part is that its not just something between two adults, you are now bringing your kids into a situation that is uncomfortable for the servers who have to wait on you. The example that I am thinking of is a sad one since the wife in the family situation is obviously unhappy, the husband strung out and the kids taking the brunt of their marital issues. They have been regulars for a while but only recently we have seen the wife with a younger more beefy guy who is all over her when they come in together.

There is nothing worse than annoying regulars but for every good regular there are a dozen or so regulars that could be done without. But it does give us something to talk about.